This post is especially for women, although the top ten sexual desire tips below can be useful to anyone.

  1. Only have sex with someone you’re really sexually attracted to. If you don’t know what this means, you’re either too young for this post or we have a lot of ground to cover. If you’re too young, please check out some of our other posts. If we have a lot of ground to cover, buckle in, you’re going for a very fun ride.
  2. Exercise religiously, at least 30 minutes each day. I know, I know, but there are several excellent scientific reasons why this will pay off. The first and most important is that good blood flow and oxygen distribution throughout your whole body are critical for creating The Big O. And while not actually necessary for enjoyable sex, orgasm is probably the biggest payoff for most people. An orgasm is also good for your sexual organs in terms of their muscular strength and healthy circulation of blood and oxygen, and exercise and orgasm are good for healthy production and circulation of hormones and your lymph system. Why should you care even if you plan to be celibate for the rest of your life? If you’re a woman, you must maintain good vaginal and uterine health and strength to avoid hysterectomy, pain, heavy bleeding, etc. as you age. If you’re a man, you must consider the health of your prostate. Having regular sex or masturbating is good for your health! Plus, exercise increases your physical stamina and flexibility which are important for good lovemaking.
  3. Get enough sleep. Most people need at least 8 hours of solid, uninterrupted sleep. If you’re a parent of little ones or if you are going through menopause, this is sometimes a challenge. If you’re going through menopause, read some of these menopause posts to find more information on nutrition and alternative medicine that can help to smooth your way through The Change.
  4. Give yourself relaxation treats. Take a hot bath and put salt in the water. It can be regular table salt or organic sea salt, both work well. This is especially great if you just feel gross for no particular reason except that you’ve had a hard day, been around people who skeeve you out, or if you tend to pick up other people’s energy. Indulge in a nice pastry. Get a professional massage – ask the massage therapist to work on your lymph system and give you some reflexology. Many massage therapists also do energy medicine like Reiki or acupressure. Have some of that done, too.
  5. Go to a great acupuncturist and tell them exactly what you’re there for. Don’t beat around the bush. Ahem. They’ll know what to do to release any blockages and to get your hormonal system back in balance. There are also specific points they can work on which will increase not only your libido, but also your orgasmic experience (when you get to that later, of course).
  6. Eat healthy. This corresponds with getting at least 30 minutes of exercise every day. Foods to add which will especially help: asparagus, strawberries, organic dark chocolate, bananas, oysters, chili peppers, almonds. Eat as many fresh, raw fruits and veggies as you can. They have enzymes in them that our bodies need in order to process food properly and absorb the nutrition from it. Read Morgan Spurlock’s Don’t Eat This Book, based on his documentary Super Size Me. He and his wife, who is a vegan chef and educator, include many nutritional tips for health and wellbeing, part of which is healthy sexual function. By the way, Morgan’s sexual function went down during the 30 days he ate only McDonald’s food for this documentary. His wife was none too pleased. See how they handled it in Supersize Me, the movie.
  7. Drink alcohol moderately, if at all. “Too much alcohol raises blood pressure and can raise your risk for stroke, heart disease, osteoporosis, many cancers,” etc. Again, according to the US Government Health Page for Women.
  8. Don’t smoke. You’ll live longer, better, and more happily, and other people will actually want to kiss you because they’re not kissing a disgusting ashtray. Need more reasons or help? Click here. Your ability to breathe will increase and make it easier to exercise, which, as noted above, makes sex more fun.
  9. Try masturbating. The old adage that practice makes perfect definitely applies here. There’s no stage fright, and you can try things to see how you like them.
  10. Go dancing. Dancing is a wonderful way to get grounded and to connect with your body and someone else’s. Move around, feel your rhythms, enjoy yourself. Laugh. Challenge yourself, learn some new moves. They’ll impact your desire to move in the bedroom.