Merry Christmas & Happy Yule!

Many blessing to you & your loved ones!

I’ve had great holidays, and I’ve survived miserable ones.  They are why I created my Holiday Survival Guide for you — so that you can protect and heal yourself during gatherings.

My favorite holidays are with people I really like and who like me back.  Which eventually for me meant not “family”, but framily.

The people who are such great friends and people that they turn into a better version of family.

I call the old blood relations who proved themselves to be scum FOOs (Family Of Origin).

A modified phrase from the old TV show The A Team always makes me smile, said by Mr. T: “I pity da FOOs”. 

I do, sort of.  

But not really.  Not in a daily, practical sense.  Because if I did, I would still want to help them.  But that’s over.  At least for now.

Yup, I’m (mostly) no-contact with them.  My uncle generally messages me good wishes on holidays, and as a way of showing I’m still alive, I respond in kind.

I’m standing here, waving you forward, letting you know that not only is it possible to go no-contact with toxic people and break the trauma bond, LIFE TRULY DOES GET BETTER!

You’ll love yourself more, because you’re not betraying yourself.  Because you give yourself great experiences and the opportunity to have wonderful relationships.  

That hole in your heart really does fill in.

And life gets more and more fun and beautiful!

Your body will heal, and you’ll age backwards.  Your strength — mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual — will build.

You’ll have a better flow of money.  

Your self-confidence builds on a solid foundation and can’t be rocked by shitty fucks, no matter how much you love them or how long you were involved with them.

Choose You.  Right Now.

Keep your eyes open for my upcoming Break The Trauma Bond For Good course.

One of the breaking points for me (lol, yup, there were many — I’m strong-willed and hard-wired for loyalty to family and those I love) was a Christmas where my sister had flown across the continent to join me and our mother and grandmother, but the elders wouldn’t stop arguing with each other.  They tried to drag us into the fray, and they refused all our efforts to turn the holiday back into one of love and fun.  It was so bad that my sister and I left the house during a heavy snowstorm and met up with a friend of mine to go watch a movie and eat out.  I would never normally have done any of those things on a family holiday because I love getting together with loved ones, cooking delicious special recipes together, and enjoying each others’ company.  But that was an impossibility that Christmas, so we punted and actually had a very adventurous alternative framily Christmas instead.  The storm was so bad that the movie theatres had closed.  I didn’t realize that all the many restaurants in our area closed for Christmas, except for Chinese places.  Even my favorite Chinese restaurant was closed because of the storm!  We kept driving around on the dangerous, slick roads, laughing all the way, and eventually found a different Chinese restaurant to eat at.  My newly-vegetarian sister chose an entree that none of us recognized that included black beans.  We all thought that was a good idea!  However, it stank like rotting urine!  And it was not yummy.  But, we were still having fun together, and boy was it memorable.  That pink booth was full of warmth and good cheer.

I wish you that same happiness, appreciation, respect, and fun –today and all the time!

My Holiday Survival Guide will help you do the same.  Get it right now and use the tools and techniques to give yourself a good time!

You can also pre-order my Engage Your Rage online course.

Grief can also grab you at the holidays, even in ways you least expect it and at times you think you’re fine.  It is it’s true and healing nature.  Work with your grief in easy, natural ways in my Grief Course.

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