Being in a relationship with a narcissist is like being in a battle and getting blown up.
Over and over again. Like a war version of Groundhog Day.
💔 you feel shattered
💔 you’re missing parts
💔 there are holes everywhere
💔 you’ve jumped out of your skin so many times you don’t know 💔 where it is anymore
💔 your wiring is all messed up
💔 you don’t feel like yourself
💔 it feels like someone else moved in to your body and keeps trying to shove you out
So when someone (your ex, family, or someone new) comes along acting all loving, supportive, and telling you you’re great, it’s not surprising you have a double reaction:
1] YAY! about fucking time! I’m so ready I could burst!
2] Stay the fuck away from me you predator.
Welllllll, not exactly ideal, right?
➡️ You want to be able to receive good while perceiving and avoiding bad.
How the heck to do this?
Is this even possible after being blown up and patched back together like a Living Dead Frankenstein?
You can receive good and perceive bad.
You can protect yourself and thrive.
BUT….. (you knew that was coming)
➡️ …..you’ve got to heal and reassemble first.
Ya, unsexy, I know.
But possible, and you can do it.
➡️ Heal the parts that are ready, the places that have enough strength now to take one step forward.
Wash, rinse, repeat.
How do you find those parts? How do you gain more strength?